Ruthless People: The Story Of Max's Pet Peeve

I felt I had to use the factual account of Max (not the real name of the individual) as an example to all of us as to the kinds of friends or partners we choose to include in our lives. He gave me his permission to use his ordeal on this forum. The following story was extracted from a post I did on Death Berry's thread that was entitled "I Have A Complaint".. She was hurt by (what I and others might call on this forum) in a cold, thoughtless and mindless manner.

The purpose of this thread is to have other people come here and vent their frustrations about bad friends or useless lovers.

Extracted from other post:
NOTE: I edited the thread after Max checked it out and gave me a little more details.

I'll tell you of a pet peeve this Brother in our movement went with.--- and boy was it a pet peeve.

Beginning of story: (I almost remember his story word 4 word):

He (I'll call him Max) likes or (I should probably use past tense) LIKED this young woman that was introduced to him by her biological brother. Max and her became fast friends. They hung out for about a year. He's 35 and she's 24. He would go out an hour's drive just to see her, buy her gifts and take her into to town and treat her to dinner. She didn't treat him to anything because she was living off her parents and didn't want to go look for a job. She hardly said thank you for the stuff he did for her out of the kindness of his heart. He didn't tell her how he felt about her until he learned that she was single. He told her what he thought about her, how beautiful she was etc.

Max explained to her that he wanted to shield her from drugs, bad crowds and booze because he used to do that stuff and knows what it can do to the person. He willingly took her under his wing and told her that he would like to have a future with her. She told him that she didn't want to 'see' or date anybody for a while only to ask 5 minutes later (after seeing several of his friends in a photo album) if any of his buddies were single.

Then she would badger him about how he (by being protective, buying her gifts and dinner) reminded her of a man from her past-- a rapist who abused her while she was drunk. So in other words, because of similar traits that Max possessed (buying her gifts, appearance, being protective, and taking her from the farm back to town for dinner), she was indirectly blaming Max for another man's critical actions of rape. Max was being blamed for something he didn't do-- something another man had done. This was going on for months but he sucked it up- he didn't "say" anything because she wants guys to be sweet to her.. So Max let her little, yet painful insults build and build. She also told Max that he had big eyes, a crooked nose and looked like a 'dodo' bird--- jokingly so she said in accuracy.

Then, he snapped. A couple of weeks ago, he (Max) went to see her. Her birthday is afew days before Christmas. He bought her a birthday present. A day later, her sister calls and asks if he and she can come down by 30 minute drive to her place to help her look after her ill kids while her hubby worked a 12 hour 6pm to 6am shift and she went to an AA meeting. She (the girl he liked) always complained and hated babysitting those kids UNTIL..... she learned that her "exboyfriend" (that dumped her) was there to help out with the kids. She then changed her tune about babysitting. She lit up like a candle, bathed, did her hair and nonchalontly asked him when they were heading to her sister's place. Max wasn't dumb. He knew why she was in a hurry- because she wanted to spend time with her ex. Now this annoyed the poor man that was trying to win her affection only to get verbally slammed against the wall for things that wasn't his fault.

So, he drove her there and noticed how she glowed in his car along the way. She even told Max that he could go with her sister to her AA meeting if he wanted because her "ex" was there and could help out. So, to test her out Max called her sister up on his cell. He sarcastically joked about how he was being rushed because 'so & so' (the girl he liked) wants to go back out with her ex. Then she (the girl he liked) dropped a bomb shell on him. Smiling cheek to cheek she said that she wouldn't mind going back out with her ex boyfriend.

Crap hit the fan. The sister was listening on the cell and heard everything. Max knew about the "ex" and of how he's her age with no car or license and lived like a pig (so I was told by him who was told by her mom). In other words, she didn't realize the sacrifices Max made to her and what was good for her. Instead she, after telling Max that she doesn't want to date anybody, abruptly hopes that her ex will ask her back out? You know some males. They feel humiliated and degraded when somebody they pour their heart out to wants to go with a less desirable man. It's a slap in the face and a kick to the groin (as Max put it). So, Max exploded on her out of hurt and disgust. Who wouldn't?

He told me that he said to her:

"Is that a fact? You wanna go back out with him?? Okay. Seeing as how he has no car or driver's license and barely called you or even paid attention to you in the past, HE can buy your smokes, HE can buy your booze, HE can buy your gifts, HE can drive an hour's drive just to see you and HE can take you out to dinner! I'm tired of this bullsh*t! You chose him?? You made your bed. Now lie in it!"

Now Max knew that her ex wouldn't and couldn't do any of those things and Max knew that she knew those things also. That's why he said what he said- to show her how stupid she and her decision was.

Max dropped her off at her sister's trailer and drove off. Max told me that his bones felt extremely cold and harsh all night long because of the blast- he was that much hurt.
He then told her mother of her daughter's behavior. He even predicted that she would phone her mom up to say that she was gonna stay at her sister's trailer for a couple of days to help her out. I should note that her ex was staying there for acouple of days. Max was right. She called her mom up and said that she was going to stay there for a couple of days to help care for the kids. Max and her mom knew that that was only "partially" the reason.-- not once during the conversation did she talk about coming back home to try to talk with Max.

She (the mom) thinks of Max like a son and loves him like a son. The mom was pissed at her daughter's behavior, phoned her up and yelled at her. The daughter's responce? She simply said that Max has a jealousy problem and she doesn't like jeolous men. She wants a man (and she gave her 'ex' as an example) that won't get angry when she gawks at other men almost to the point of asking them out. She further explained that it's "his" fault for harboring such attitude problems of which it only reminds her, "all the more", about that rapist she hung with in the past that took advantage of her when she was drunk.

Max knew by cutting her off, she would only shrug her shoulders and forget about him in a day. Seriously. I call her behavior vile and cold. Max calls it outright "sadism". "She's a thoughtless, thankless, sellfish and cold hearted sadist!".. he told me. Blind luv? Um... I believe so! and so does he. I told him to write the pro's and cons of the woman while they were still fresh in his mind. He thought of about 1 "pro" while on the other hand he wrote 22 "cons"- a serious comparision, wouldn't you say? Apparently, he concluded, she brings the worst out of people. I would say so.



You see, mistreatment and rejection hurt. Max and Death Berrie were hurt by people with little to no values. Sometimes it even pulverizes a person since he (Max in the story) felt shivering cold all night long he told me. Do a list of the pros and cons. Look ahead as to what, where, when and why this person is in your life and as to what benefits or hazards they mean to you of the past, present and future.. Just try to hang with positive and "well inspiring folk" (not saying you are or aren't). Self check your surroundings and weigh the pros and cons.

Max admitted that he was stupid for not seeing these character flaws sooner. He said that the sister of the girl (that mentally and verbally abused him) told him that she will only hang around somebody if she knows she can get something out of it like booze, drugs, smokes, free rides and free dinners. Max's mistake (and he knows it) was that he was hoping to prove and change this woman- a bad and often times fatal decision to make.

What's worse is that this hurtful woman claims to be Mulderite. Well, maybe in her world. In our movement, lines must be drawn. Even though we don't believe in "Ardent Excommunication" like The Jehovah's Witnesses do, still, if one member hurts another member in a vile manner and is destructive and/ or self destructive, then those faults are grounds for dismissal. We don't favor violence of any kind whether it be physical, mental, verbal or emotional. They get let go until they turn their lives around.

Even though I'm only an apprentice Cleric, I don't have the right to make the "final call" as to who should get the axe. I passed Max's complaint to Sister Strawberry (the Chief Cleric and builder of the Mulderite website). Max (also a Mulderite) was interviewed and wrote a detailed account of that night (locations, times, dates, facial expressions, etc). The hurtful woman was excommunicated.
It takes alot to get suspended or kicked out. Max stepped down from our group on the self analizing grounds of being too verbally harsh on that woman.
He just wanted some vacation time alone until he can fully flush this woman's kusses and rough behavior from his soul- some of those "negatives" (he claims) rubbed off on him.

Is their somebody that was ruthless and cold hearted in your life? Do you want me or others here on this forum to pray for you so you can heal? Pray for Max and Death Berry so they may heal.

Hugs..
Your "cosmic sister".

A BLU nite SKY
:cat: :cat: :cat: (I luv me kitties)

Jerry, you're awesome!

Jerry 'rules' with alot of us Mulderites! Cool and smoooooooth!

Sincerely,

a BLU nite SKY :cat: :cat: :cat: I love me kitties!

The Green Flare

One of our Mulderite brothers e-mailed me and said that a friend of his saw a green light in the night sky over Onoway, Alberta, Canada. He was with her and they went UFO hunting at around 2AM. They were out in the middle of nowhere. He was setting up a night vision camera when she saw this green flare sail across the sky. She freaked out and before he could look where she had pointed, the light/flare was gone.

I should point out (from the accounts I had heard) that alot of UFO/ Earthling encounters often happen on a "one on one" basis. The Brother also mentioned something else. Of the very same woman, her father had an encounter with a bright light that approached him from the sky. He stopped his vehicle and the bright light hovered around his car and suddenly took off into the night sky with a flash. Once again, this incident happened in the middle of nowhere.

I would say that these people had been chosen to 'see'- that the veil of blindness had been lifted from their eyes.


Sincerely,

A blu NITE sky :cat: :cat: :cat:

HEAVEN'S GATE and THE GATES OF FOX MULDER

The Breif Fellowship Between "The Gates Of Fox Mulder" and "Heaven's Gate":

Alot (well I shouldn't say alot) but a significant number of Mulderites in the U.S came across the Heaven's Gate Religion led by Marshal Applewhite (Do). The Movement of ours may have barely been in its infancy stages (1996/ early 97) but 'we' were around and when we (not I) ran into some of them, the exchange of doctrinal beliefs between us was a friendly and peaceful exchange.

The Mass Suicide or Controversial Exodus:

It is sad that they ended their lives the way they did and making fun of them or their teachings (like so many websites do) is wrong. We Mulderites don't judge- we examine, compare and analyze.

The Hunt:

I have been unsuccessful in tracking down their literature (the online book doesn't cut it). I'm looking for the hard cover book "How and When Heaven's Gate May Be Entered". I am also looking for their videos but, so far, I'm unsuccessful. All I get on Heaven's Gate is bigotted and childish rantings from hateful websites that criticize but hate BEING criticized which, to me, is a waste of cyberspace and human energy. I've asked some of my fellow bretheren to help. So far, they're unsuccessful in finding the book or videos for me and Sister Strawberry's website. Even she has been unsuccessful in tracking down the literature for analysis.

Strawberry's G.O.F.M. Website Pays Respects To Heaven's Gate:

She's working on a page on the Mulderite site that will do a critique of the group as well as a "in memory of" dedication. She plans on doing a special page on the "bastardization" of the world "cult" and what the real definition of the word is- not the Media's version or some pee brain that knows more about porn & drugs than sanctity & intelligence.

Can you guys help me out with tracking down the book and videos?

Thank you many!

a BLU nite SKY :cat: :rainbow:

I'm a Mulderite and I'm Baaaaaaaaaack.....

My name is sister (prefix) " a blu nite sky " and I'm with a small movement called "the gates of fox mulder". The Fox Mulderite Religion Website has finally been set up!!! I'm saying 'hello' to everyone with luv and respect and peace.


a blu nite sky