Thread: to say i do , or not

Its quite probable that unless she sees him in his true light that she will go ahead and in the proccess lose her family and friends when she needs them most.. if she can not see it for herself yet .. she will one day..even if it's years down the road.. all you can do is help her through it when the time comes and she sees the real him.. just don't cut her off from you .. help her and stand by her and listen when the proverbiale shit hits the fan.. it will one day if he is as bad as you think he is.. sometimes love comes with rose coloured glasses! Be strong for her while she can't and help her be strong when she needs it and can accept it.

Hi Hun.
The best thing to do is keep reiterating everything and keep on at her , but at the end of the day it is her decision nd if she is determined to marry him then I don't think anyone will stop her.
If she does go ahead and marries him and things fall apart for her, then it's best to be there for her too give her comfort and understanding, but without saying "I told you so"

it would be great if we all had a magic wand to make peeps see sense and see the things that others can't. It is her life and she has to make her own choices and unfortunately her own mistakes.
Just try to be there for her when she needs you .

I hope you can talk some sense into her, but if not she has to see it for herself.

What exactly is his motive for marrying her, if you don't mind my asking?

If it's for money then he can go f**k himself. That's the only motive I can think of...

If she won't listen to reason, and marries him anyway, she'll find out she was wrong about him soon enough.

lots of money

Ya now, there were not getting through to me when I was marring the wrong guy. My heart goes out to both of you and hope you achieve what my friends could not. Otherwise, all you can do is be there for her when she figures it. I hope she sees the truth.

Let her find out for herself.

All you can do is stand by her and be a good friend if she wont listen to you. Also encourage her to seek financial advice that will save her losing everything if this guy is as you say he is. Maybe you could recommend a good financial advisor or give her some information from the net etc and let her read it over in her own time.

Hmm...I'm usually not one to advocate being sneaky like this, but could you secretely record him saying "She'll never believe you"?
To hell with the legalities!

her mom called me this morning, they elpoed last night