I met a girl a week ago, we were having a great time up until last night. She text me telling me she was in the hospital. Now she didn't tell me what happened, but earlier that day she told me she was watching over her sick grandma. I assumed the worse, even though I hope it's not what I'm thinking. Anyways, I felt worried so I gave her a call later that night and heard her crying on the other side. I just told her to feel better and blah blah and told her goodnight.

The thing is, I suck at these sad depressing moments. What do I do? Do I stay on the side and be passive or should I keep trying to comfort her? And how should it be done? My life skills suck

I used to suck at this sort of thing too, But, just comfort her and stay by her side until she feels better, its hard for her if shes going through something, but having you there to help her would really make it easyer

Yep...there's really no good "method" for dealing with this stuff.
All you can do is be there for her.

to be honest at the death of my daughter and grand child there was nothing to be said that was comforting to me, but for some one to just hold me was comfort, it made me feel not so lost . words never are enough , but to be held is the greatest comfort .

i agree cricket, my grandad died last sunday and im to go to my first buriel/funeral this tuesday....i feel, inside....that words are enough if said right......but mostly body language....to be hold and said that everythings goin to be okay....does alot for me.....its not often....if ever someone says that to me....but being held is more that words can speak hope you find peace hun.

My daughter died so I know just what you mean cricket.
But it is so important to say something , even if it is just sorry.
Some people I knew crossed the street when they saw me so they didn't have to speak to me and that really hurt, but I guess they didn't know what to say.

So sorry to hear about your grandad Weird Gal.
My fathers funeral was the first one I went to and it was so sad.
I have been to loads since and they don't get any easyer.
Nice to see you back again by the way. Have missed your posts.

My method: Comedy

It might SEEM inappropriate, but it really does work (most of the time)...
when my grandma died in cancer (she lived in the same building as us)
all my nieces came over in the middle of the night, all of them were crying,
saying goodbye to granma and kissed her cold cheek

Well, since they were SO sad, and I was left to take care with them up in my apartment,
so I got them to watch tv: Bill and Ted's Adventure! They went from crying to laughing,
and ever since I figured that comedy really does help in these kind of situation

Nowadays, when bad things happen,
I step up to people and start singing Rock Lobster

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h-NkND-YEZE