Hiya everyone,

This may seem like a bit of a weird thread and probably wont make much sence as i'm tired. I have loads of hopes and dreams for my future to do with learning about the world and space and sciences, but as i'm getting older i'm finding it hard to hold on to them. I don't know if it is the stresses of being a teenager but i feel like i'm losing the will to carry on with things. I don't wanna fail and disappoint myself but I don't know how to keep motivated. I just feel like i'm too tired and feel i'm going down hill and letting go of the things that are really in my heart, search for truth etc. I don't even know what i'm asking you all lol but i think ya might have some idea...

Thats EXACTLY how i feel, i dunno what it is, Maybe a little depression? or something, Do u always feell out of energy and no ammount of sugary stuff will bring you out of it

Yeah that's exactly how i feel... i think it is depression but i don't know what's causing it because i have no immediate problems... unless somethings playing in the back of my mind... Usually cherry coke helps lol but just lately i'm feeling so low and run down

Yeah, ive found the best thing is to do is just use the sadness as something good, like when ever it happens, i just get on and learn my guitar even more

Ill say try seeing a doctor about it, but it isnt as easy as it sounds for some people, Maybe look for things that make u come out of the thing,

Best thing i can say though, is just dont let the depression run u down bad, Has anything at all happened lately, Between U, your friends or in your family, or anything that just disterbs u a little? The brains a strange thing, Even if you dont actully feel sad, It makes u depressed at something you couldnt care less about (or so u think, umm i think lol)

yeah i see what you're saying lol A lot of things get me down but i do my best to ignore them and keep smiling. I sometimes go swimming or for walks when i feel down but i'm losing the will to do that a lot of the time now. I think little things that people say/ or dont say in some cases... plays on my mind... but i don't think i know how to cope with things... i really did used to be a really strong person but not i just feel like crap half the time. I'm fed up of seeing my doctor... i think partly that's playing on my mind... i don't know if it's too personal to state and i may get in trouble for putting it but i found a small lump and i have to get it checked out at hosp soon so that may be partially playing on my mind.... how about you, anything bad happened to make you feel down?

Lol You seriously dont want to know why im down, But its a very long chain of events, all leading to something that happened when i was only 1

Push yourself!, If your feeling down anytime, Just get some cerry coke down u and go for a walk/Swim

Same here, i usually dont care what people say though, its what they dont say that usally gives me a weird feeling

Dont worry about that lump, Its most likely to be nothing, And the less it makes you worry the less chance it has of becoming something
Anyways, Gotta go Bed now lol, Gawddd im tired *Yawn*

lol thanks for chatting helps to talk to someone who knows how i feel anywways night night xx

NP if there anything else dont hesitate to ask, Through pm or just make a new thread

Thanks again, i appreciate it.

The dreams you have as a teenager are going to be the strongest in your life. its you way of deciding which direction to turn to. Unfortunatly for me, I didnt follow through. I am at a complete dead end. Go with your gut and decide now. You will always think their is a better direction later in life, but the idea is to at least chose a path now and have a fall back plan.

Hi Rachel, not weird at all. Hang in there, many people know how you feel. All the best as you decide on a path. Good luck, too.

Mary

Chin up Rach - I can't suggest anything which would make you feel more motivated but I do remember some 'wise words' from a College lecturer before I entered University...she said 'Ben, (coz that's my name lol) when you get there they'll tell you this and teach you that.....just remember why you are there, what you believe in and do whatever they want you to do but never lose sight of what you believe and who you are'.

Be you Rach. You're all that's needed.

Ben

Hang in there. I wish you best of luck in whatever you pursue.


I cannot say much about motivation, but perhaps you're not getting enough sleep. Teenagers now days live a very fast paced life with computer, cell phones, social events, etc. You may need to devote some time to getting a good nights sleep. Also, you may want to add a vitamin B-complex and Iron to your diet. In addition, keep yourself hydrated, drink your 8 glasses of water a day, dehydration may also contribute to your fatigue.

Again, best of luck, you have a whole lot of life in front of you!!!

Rachel, I read your post again today and wanted to tell you I was impressed with the thinking you are doing. The pressures to succeed are enormous on people in this society and while we grow up learning that anyone can be anything they want through hard work, there are actually a lot of other things that figure into success, like the right opportunity, having enough time to do the things that are neede especially when we work for a living, other peoples' actions, and even just plain luck.

Your thoughts are good, yes, it is hard and if you feel tired, please know that life can be absolutely exhausting!

As other kind souls have said on this thread, hang on to who you are and be yourself and you wiill grow into the person you want to be. I really like what Ben said, above.

again, good luck Rachel,
Mary

It's tough being a teenager. Things that can help a little bit at least might be, bet good regular sleep, make sure you eat good food whenever you can. There is a lot of truth in the old saying healthy mind, healthy body. DOn't be too frightened of change. If you feel like you are not staying true to yourself, maybe it is just that your truths are changing a little as you get older. So don't be scared to change your views on the world. Life is like being in a boat, lots of ups and downs, just ride the waves and you will be back on top inno time. Make sure you be around good real people, family and friends are great for support. Don't get too tied up in cyberspace. Make sure you get out and about with friends and family.
Cheers
Good Luck and keep us posted.
Dundee

Thanks for all the feedback ya all make a lot of sense so cheers

My best advice Rachael, if you want to achieve your hopes and dreams is patience. Set milestones for yourself that lead you to getting closer to reaching your true goal(s). This way by achieving each milestone you know that you are on your way to what you want and will give you more strength to move even farther forward and ultimately meeting or exceeding your goal. Never lose faith in yourself.

i was ok with it all until quite recently..I think it's because it's here and now when things start to take off. Just gets a bit scary not knowing where you'll end up. Thanks for the advice anyways.

Rachel, I am glad you started this thread, because as I reread everyone's messages just now and read the recent posts from Dundee and Busaiku, it is helping me remember how all the joys, insecurities, ups and downs are all part of the music of any life.

Hope all is well.

Mary

Hey again Rachel
I have a loved one who suffers from Post natal depression, its awful, but you know what helps, what Busaiku said is really important. My wife gets so many positive things out of having something to look forward to. I said to her one day, why don't you go to Bali, She always wanted to go there, we can't all afford to go (there are 6 of us ) So whay should she miss out. You know what, she spent the next 10 months, looking at airfares, checking shopping spots, understanding, currency conversions, looking at motels, travel spots and so on. It kept her going for nearly a year. Since then i have packed her off to Bali twice and she is going to Singapore in a couple of weeks. Each trip gives her something to aim for for almost a year. It has helped her heaps. Find yourself something you have always wanted to do. Something just for you, or maybe you and a close friend. And aim for it. The biggest mistake people make when setting goals is not understanding how to get there. It sounds wierd but if you said Boy i would like a new car, ill have to save for it. You are left with no clear way to get there, i mean, you could save forever couldnt you??? Instead say, OK i want a new car, and i want it for christmas, i want to spend $2000 on it. So now you work backwards, its 6 months till Xmas, so thats about $300/month or $75/week i have to save, Ok thats a lot, what can i sell, what other money do i have coming in. Spend the next 6 months checking out the best deals, best places to buy, what cars not to get and what would be good and so on.
Whatever your plan is work out when you want it to happen and work out what steps you will need to take to get there, and when and how you will make those steps happen. It doesnt have to be something that cost money, it could be writing a book, running a marathon, taking on a new career or new studies, it doesnt matter what it is, so long as its important to you. Pretty soon you will have lots of other things to look forward to. It like a smile, its contagious and makes other smiles happen.
Good luck
Let us know how it all goes.
Cheers
Dundee

ps//
Dont get too tied up in the doom sayers you might find on places like.......umm.....welll....this forum. People have been predicting Doom and Gloom for centuries, most of it doesn't happen. And the stuff that does, well worry about that if and when it does. Most of what is said on a forum is just word games between people. Don't take it too seriously. Most everyone hear after their most heated debate, would over a cup of coffee say that there not as full on about there opinion as the particular thread seemed to show. There is too many wonderfull things around you to focus on the bad stuff. If you see threads that look disturbing, dont read them, we all sound like experts with our silly predictions and so on. As dad used to say, " take it all with a grain of salt"