I really haven't seen a topic like this around here so I thought I would bring it up and it might be a little nice ice-breaker:

We all come to this site for some reason or other. We've had experiences with EBEs, we've seen certain things that make us question, or we have never had any experiences but we believe with more than the "normal" amount of force and are obsessed with this sort of thing for some apparent reason that we can't seem to comprehend.

Now my question is, how do you deal with this stuff when you are not on this site, when you're out in the real world? Do you keep this stuff a secret or do you share it with people in your everyday life?

My friends consider me to be a freak. Some of them believe in life on other worlds and UFOs but none of them obsess about it as much as I do (hence the freak part). Sometimes it can be hard because I'll have so much to say but they won't want to hear any of it since it's of no particular interest to them.

I don't know why but since I was 8 was when I started developing this obsession. And the more I researched the more obsessed I became. I really don't understand my fascination with EBEs and UFOs. And the funny part about it is that I seem to be the only one in my family that's interested in this stuff so, like my friends, I feel I have to keep things to a minimum so they don't get bored.

What are your stories?

How I coped with it? Even though I was little I found a way to cope with it... how? Yes I did tell everyone about aliens, but not about my encounters, my dreams. Since practically a baby I had dreams of a dog-cat looking race with magical powers called "Dreams" (because they were my dreams) that lived on a planet called Esatou, and I was obsessive over them. I told everyone about my life as a "Dream" who's name was Saria instead of Sarah and my whole family, especially my adopted son Maddie (who strangely was the Devil's son himself 0.o...) and the lessons and adventures we had. And I had been telling everyone about them since I could speak, when I was abducted for the first time I knew I couldn't tell anyone of my real encounters or they'd think me psycho... So I just continued telling them about my dreams instead, and everytime I would tell them another adventure I'd remember my real abductions.... It was like, "Hey I'm talking about aliens and you don't mind ^-^... as long as you don't know about the real guys I'll be fine..."

Now those who read this and are confused because on another thread I said I wasn't obsessed with aliens at all before my abductions, I meant "real" aliens... I didn't think my "Dream" creatures would of made a good impression if I had talked about them earlier.... ^-^b

I always shared... I don't care about people may think. BUT, you share with people kinda like you, if you know people that would never believe in stuff like that, I say f*ck them! Share it with someone who deserves!

I like to share so much that I made a website about it and with pictures of me! :rofl:

Dear Roswell1947,

My experiences have taught me that most people hate losing. They prefer to play the games that they're good at while avoiding those they're not, even though they may learn something valuable during the process of 'losing.' (If only something about themselves.)

Verbal discussion to many is like a competitive game in which they want to win. To many, it's not so important being 'right' about a subject as it is being 'considered' right by their audience. To many, if they're not knowledgable about the subject matter they'll either change the subject or politely 'tune you out' (ignore you) or not so politely yawn in your face or sometimes rudely try to ridicule and insult you.

I personally believe that our lives are directed by the choices we make based upon the two primary emotions that are available to us, 'love' and 'fear'. Love is prone to 'accept' things (after sufficient research) while fear inclines us to 'resist' things out of hand that we consider unpopular, strange or different.

Those who choose love are just as inclined to research the 'con' data as they are the 'pro' data. Those who choose to resist are generally not so inclined. I guess what I'm trying to say is: To me, a sure indication of intelligence can be found in how much you love rather than how much you know. Also, to me, it's not so important what you think as how you think.

Another reason for the lack of interest can be the fear of being 'labeled' a crackpot etc. Just think about it, why would anyone, who does not believe (due to fear, ignorance or lazyness), want to be on the receiving end of the insulting remarks they have been dishing out all these years to the 'believers.'

A rule I live by: Never expect anything (acceptance, encouragement, moral support etc.) from anyone and you'll never be disappointed.

http://www.alien-ufos.com/forum/showthread...4931#post274931

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Teacher: 'However, we can only view art through the lense of our own psyches.'
Student: 'But then there is no pure art?'
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"I do not instruct the uninterested; I do not help those who fail to try. If I mention one corner of a subject and the pupil does not deduce therefrom the other three, I drop him." The Sayings of Confucius

Yeah, I've heard this before although I've never understood it's meaning. Do you think you can explain it more? What's the difference between them I guess is what I'm asking.




A very good rule. One I've come to live by as well. I just figure that if you don't really care much about expectations then nothing can hold you down. You know like for example: you don't expect a good grade on an exam so it's a surprise, you don't expect a bad grade and that's not a surprise. Basically you had no expectations so it's not really a big deal (or did I just confuse myself to where I sound hypacritical?)

I really dont tell anyone. I only talk about it here where I know I wont get made fun of. Thats pretty much it. None of my friends show interest in it so Im all alone.

Sometimes it kind of bites doesn't it? Being alone I mean. Don't get me wrong, it's great coming here to talk about this stuff but at the same time it would be nice to have a friend in our regular lives to talk to but what can you do, right?

Dear Roswell1947,

I appreciate your question. What I must stress is that my answer is strictly subjective in nature. I do not ask anyone to believe anything I say but always to research it for themselves to see if it 'feels right.' Sometimes that 'feeling' is all we have to go on especially when the evidence is insufficient.

My search for 'truth' through knowledge must start with knowledge about myself. The more I understand myself the more I feel able to understand others. My greatest hurdle and stumbling block has always been myself - my Ego. With the practice of various techniques of self-awareness and exercising my right to 'take my time' and to 'inhibit' my automatic reactions to things I have made some progress at improving myself.

As I stated in my previous post my interest in others is not so much in what they think but rather in how they think. If they have a large ego it will eventually show itself. Someone once said 'A person cannot speak without revealing themselves.' I believe this goes for writing as well. Egoists turn me off.

Having much knowledge is great but to be too proud of that knowledge is ignorance. Many people on this website obviously take great pride in their knowledge. That is not a bad thing, for most of us are here to learn.

What I don't care for are those persons who seem to have an axe to grind. They seem to always insist they're right in their views and that you're an idiot or worse if you don't agree with them.

They seem to use their knowledge like a hammer to bludgeon others who are less 'intelligent' than they are. With a condescending attitude they seem to revel in the sport of denigrating others for not knowing as much as they do or being able to draw the accurate conclusions that they do.

You would think these kinds of people would be too embarrassed to exhibit this juvenile aspect of their personality so shamelessly, but the possessor of the massive ego finds no fault within themselves.

I feel I am similar to everyone else, no better no worse. I tend to 'like' people who are 'like' me, that is, people who are similar to me in their views and attitude. People who are open-minded, willing to entertain any idea evenhandedly without allowing their pride or ego to get in the way. So many people express their belief like it came out of a cement roller, no sooner do they get it out then it's already 'set in stone.'

Jesus only said we had to 'love' everybody; he didn't say we had to 'like' everybody. In the end, it is my personal perogative and pleasure to choose to respond enthusiastically to people who I feel are 'open', 'honest', 'loving', 'modest', and 'true.'

Beer Maiden stated my sentiments simply yet beautifully on her website: "Everything I do here, it's done with love and respect".

http://www.freewebs.com/beermaidenufos/about_me.htm

The word 'respect' defined literally means 'to look at.' Thank you Roswell1947 for looking at me and for responding to my post.

Don't despair if you can't find anyone to be your friend because you already have a best friend. All you have to do to find him is look in the mirror.

However rare true love is, true friendship is rarer. The condition which real friendship demands is the ability to do without it. The well-developed person is never less alone than when they are alone. Aloneness is a source of great power, loneliness the source of great weakness.

I wish you well.

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SC Russ: I thank you for sharing your views. I do see some logical reasoning in them. And what you posted about the difference between 'aloneness' and 'lonliness'; I like that.

I'm only 18 so I still have some coming of age to get through. All ready this past year I've seen how much I've grown due to some previous/wrongful experiences. I guess what I now see is that I still have much to learn not only about the world but also about myself. I still need to find out who I am and all that. Only then will I start feeling comfortable being alone.

I also love what you have on your site: "Only because you can sense things that most of people can't, it does not mean you're crazy. It means you're more opened to the reality around you."

This really makes sense and it puts things into perspective.

So again, I thank you for sharing your insight with me/us.

Dear Roswell1947,

You are most welcome. Thank you for allowing me to share what I have for in serving you am I not also serving myself?

You are at the same age I was when I first starting questioning things and started reading about UFOs etc. I too had no one who wanted to do anything more than laugh in my face over my supposed gullibility. I remember losing one close friend over this issue. I never wonder who lost the most.

A short history of this time in my life can be found in a previous post of mine:

http://www.alien-ufos.com/forum/showthread...0779#post300779

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(By the way; the statement you liked on my site was actually Beer Maidens' site. I liked it too.)

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After you know yourself...'Doubt whomsoever you will but never doubt yourself.'

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I share with my mum because she understands me and my dad and brother don't believe in what I say, but I research in to what happend/s to me to get a better understanding.

Everybody i know knows i'm interested in UFOs and Aliens and about the things i believe in. It's just who i am. It's a part of me. I'm just a weird guy and people take me for what i am. I speak openly about my belief. Actually, more people than you'd think are interested in these subjects.

I tried to purge it. Too much obsession over questions that cannot be answered is maddening.

Thanks and as easy as that sounds I'm afraid I'll have to decline. I draw my line at horoscopes so I think I'll just find out the old fashioned way.

well i've noticed a huge diffrence in people's re-actions to the ufo subject when i used to talk about stuff about 20 years ago people would snigger laugh and generally take the piss but now i find people will listen the sniggering and piss taking has now stopped as more and more people are being educated and drip fed alien/ufo material through the media sure there's all ways the odd disbeliever but i think if there was a world survey about belief in ufos/aliens i think it would be quite a big majority of believers worldwide

I need to get this all out and maybe some of you can help me:

Yesterday I was talking to a friend because she saw me read that Alien Agenda book (the one by Jim Marrs). She was curious as to wether, if they are real, if there are other races and stuff. And I said that there are/were.

And as much as I know it to be true, at the same time when I said that there are there was this small part of me that thought; okay now you're crazy since you talk as if all this is true. And I know it to be true, I've known it since I was 8. I guess part of me just wants to feel...human (as odd as that sounds). You know, people who are skeptical or trying to think of a logical explanation think it's crazy nonsense and that they ones that do believe are just trying to find something to believe in for whatever reason. Part of me just feels that while I know all of this to be true, at the same time I want to be in the group that the fascists consider normal. And yeah, maybe normal is considered over-rated but still.

All my friends are open minded enough not to think anything...We talk about it all the time...We are into space and what comes with it..and if the possibility of other life forms are part of that then we talk about it...

We watch tv shows and talk about how most UFO shows just show the same 'ol and most watching it for the first time must think there is nothing to this subject as the shows dont show the really good evidence only the sensational stuff.

Its the NASA stuff that is intruiging or the pilot shows..

Luckily for me I have many friends who are intellegent enough to not be skeptical and trust what I say has happened or I have seen as I dont make up things in other forms of my life so why when it comes to this...

Plus some of them have witnesses things with me,which helps..

But I have never ben ridiculed or said your nuts or anything like that...In this day and age people dont really care enough to have ago at you, only in here or on the impersonal net *S*

only on the odd ocassion have i thought i saw something, but could never explain it, i tell my girlfriend and shes like, doo doo doo doo, to the tune of the twilight zone, and makes me feel stupid, so i dont talk about it, plus, over all these years theres never been any hardcore evidence so i give up, im still interested and joined this site to read peoples experiences.

Ah Steph lol - Oh ye of little faith - there is hardcore evidence out there - seriously - and that's coming from someone who discards about 99.9% of all UFO/Alien reports - it still leaves enough Doo Doo Doo Doo to make me listen

Ben

Most people approach me when they see my tats and ask... do you really believe ? I always say yes and maybe you should do some research on your own and see whats out there and decide for yourself. Always, I come out of the conversation with them thinking and I believe thats all it takes to open someones mind to the possibility.