hiya

I'm 16 and suffer with depression and i have negative dreams almost every night. I don't neccessarily mean nightmares but more dreams linked with my worries and paranoia. Things happen in my dreams that, when i wake up they feel like they were real and then i start worrying, thinking they're real or are going to happen. I'm with my boyfriend who I have been with for over a year and he treats me like a princess. My family background isn't too great and all i want is to be loved. with my depression though i am really insecure and worry that he finds someone better... are my dreams normal and does anyone have any idea how to overcome them?

Hi Rachael, id like to say that most if not all things people experiance are there for you to discover youself and personally evolve. i am sure you will get many recomendations. one thing you could do is modify your diet. eat healtier foods. most of the time depression is linked to glandular imbalances and or deep seated emotional issuse steming from childhood. either way the right foods can help. if you are interested to find out more details you can message me and i can link you up with someone who has helped many people and would be more than happy to give you advice for free.

one other thing you can do is call upon Archangel Michael.
i am not christian nor religious but he still serves everyone who call. do some research on him and see what he is capable of..

Hey Rach - How ya doin'? Missed you of late - good to see you back though - I think the fact you can identify the issues means you're half way there girl - as for calling on 'Archangel Michael' - yeah I'd call him too - I'd call him missing....

Ben

Here is a quote of mine from another thread on this forum:

"Well, we do know that living is defined as: Having a propose and the pursuit of it. Happiness is having a worthwhile, decent goal in life and achieving it. Happiness is felt when you can see the progress. Depression is felt when you believe you will never reach it. This is so exact that you can time it with a stopwatch, it is instant. Depression is also cured that fast.

People often hate when some one gives them their purpose and want him or her to disregard his/her own. This can cause sadness as expressed above. So here we have proof that you can set your own goals based on what you want and that if given by another their is little chance you will ever be happy.

Not sure what you want in life? Try looking at it from the stand point that your goals are crushed and was THUS forgotten and you will be able to find them again."




There is however another factor. I don't know what is going on in your life. But I know it is there, and I know above all else, that you don't know what it is.

Yours worrysum dreams at night are not important (I am refering to their content). They are a symptom of something wrong like pain, not the problem.

I can't dig into your personal life here on this thread to help you find it. However you will feel better even if you never figure it out even if you inadvertently correct it. But spotting the true problem is 90% of the handling of it.

Also there is nothing wrong with being treated "like a princess". But there is something wrong with "My family background isn't too great". It is easy for this to contain a problem. It can also be a popular place to blame when it is not.

Please take the quoted reference to heart. It is that simple. The problem is the many ways to upset it.

Here is what the Dr. ordered:

Take Vitamin B1 before bed. It works wonders for hangovers but also helps with nightmares and problematic dreams.

If you feel "overwhelmed" find a calm quite area to get some fresh air. Looking around at things in this area will cause a shutdown of unwanted emotions if you do this for a short while. You will relax if you can separate yourself from the overwhelming factor even if you don't know what it is. The looking around at things will stop any personal things that keep it going. Walking while doing this is very helpful too. You can be with others but watch out for factors that keep you upset that may be connected to other people. You may need to separate from them to feel any relief.

Above all else find something you think is worth doing in your life and go for it. Your success at something decent and of interest to you can override any other problems.

thanks for posting back. I just feel so alone. My boyfriend Matty is great to me and i know i can talk to him. I'm just feeling so strange.. it's like my head is somewhere else. I don't know how to cope... and when things get so bad it leads to self harming. I've had 10 weeks worth of councilling which didn't help and i used to have anti-depressents.. now my doc wont even give me those. So much going on ini my head.

I am going to tell a secret. "SHHHH! Don't tell anyone!"

The mind is allot more accurate than anyone would dare believe. If you feed it a reason on what is wrong with it you will go two ways. 1. If you are right you will free it up. 2. If you are wrong, you will make the problem worse. The person himself is just as capable at feeding it reasons as anyone else.

When you are wrong you will feel even worse. Have you ever watched a man flip out? You say "what is wrong with you is a sexual (blah blah) with your mother". And BAAM! he flips out! Why? You were wrong, that is all. To cure it, just point out that it was wrong. However if you were right, he will feel better! YOu say "Your a criminal that should be locked up!" and if you are right he will feel better. If you are wrong, he can become: sad, angry, greefstricken, apithetic, fearful and can also have a mental colapse. It all depends on how much you can be wrong about.

If you feel a sudden depression, look at what happened just before it. If you guess the right thing you unlock the depressive spell and will be free to be happier if you choose. If you are wrong, you will pile more on top of what is there and if you do this enough, you will feel overwhelmed.

So when you say "I don't know how to cope... and when things get so bad it leads to self harming. I've had 10 weeks worth of councilling which didn't help.... So much going on ini my head." So I say, "If you would like to make it worse, try more anti-depressants. More of that counseling will really help to run it in too."

Scottman... thanks for your feedback but you are a perfect example of someone that doesn't understand me. Too many people assume that depression has to have all these causes you need to discuss with a random stranger. I tried it and it made me feel worse as i hadn't thought about things the way my councillor put them. I know the route of my depression but even now things just keep getting worse and i can be very sensitive. I'll put it in a bit more perspective for you... as young as i am i miscarried last april and now i'm on a downward spiral. I've been told to think of it as a positive thing as i'm so young... But until you know life is growing inside you and then it's gone how could anyone possibly understand. thanks for the feedback guys, i'm not looking for sympathy it's just to help you understand a little.

Have you seen the documentary "the secret"? not the BBC movie The Secret but the documentary. i recomend it for anyone who is seeking to change their life for the better. my bro called me from hawaii and said "you got to watch this" so i rented it at the video store and watched it 4 times in a row. then i heard that it was featured on Oprah. now i see that it plays for FREE every monday in a small local theater in my town. its briliant. i think it is an aussie film. check it out.

Rachael- miscarrying a baby will effect a woman more than many seem to realize...and you had hormones released into your body -and the loss is staggering.

Give your self a chance to heal...time will ebb the enormous pain you are feeling.
I'm so sorry that you are going through something that's even difficult for women twice your age to go through. You are more strong than you know. I'm glad you have your Matty -he sounds like a good guy.

If you ever need an ear ...pm me at either place, I'm a rather keen listener...=)

maybe your dreams are just a reflection of your fears and it is not the dream you must overcome. Maybe you need to overcome your fear of loosing your boyfriend. Maybe you need to face that if he thinks someone else is better than he is not the boy for you.

I am a surfer, Moved to the island of maui to train for surfing a wave called Jaws. I often dream I die surfing. I dont wake up, I die in my dreams all the way. Till I tingle out and fade away to heaven. But everyday I wake up and go surf again and I live. Why do I dream and how I overcome it is Not worry.

I simply face my fear. If I fear death I face death. If I fear my girl is fooling around I dump her. I go with my gut. I trust my self more than God. And my only advice is, If you truly want to find that love story. the farytail. Than learn to trust your self most of all. Learn to be happy as one, as just you . Dont depend on having a mate to be happy. You will have to find happyness in your self before you can share life.

It will be hard for you , I am 29 and never been married and no babies yet. Still hoping.. What if you are not to meet your soul mate till you are 30, Do you really want to have 3 kids already because you where afraid to be alone?

Maybe your fear of being alone your mind is trying to tell you to face it, Because maybe it is best right now and you do not want to believe it so your mind is fighting you with these visions.

Lots of maybes;) and nothing is for sure. But My guess woudl be to give your life TIME!!! your 16 dont rush love.. Love is not always on time girl;)


aloha

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Thanks daniella and truthufo, like i said it's one of those things that doesn't seem to want to go away. I'm sure with time i will heal though. Yeah, Matty is great and he does treat me like a princess... but it's my own insecurities and experiences that makes it hard for me to trust and accept that i'm loved. Even at 16 ( i know i haven't experienced life yet ) but my heart is telling me he's my soul mate and i really believe that. My mind is split into two halves depending how strong i'm feeling at the time. Sometimes i can think yeah i want to grow up and complete college and go to university and then take life as it comes.. but the other side is saying that i want to be loved and have a family of my own. I don't know i'm just mixed up. But thanks for your kind words