Hey everyone I have been in a serious mess these last few days and I really need to talk. A while ago my best friend was going out with a girl. When my friend and this girl were going out I became pretty close friends with his girlfriend, we would talk about personal stuff, and I really considered her a good friend. Eventually my buddy broke up with her, they are still friends but she was so upset. She talked to me about how she still had feelings for him and everything, I tried to help her to get through it but as I talked to her more and more I fell in love with her. I couldnt keep in these feelings forever so I told her that I liked her. She said that she still had feelings for my best friend and that she was sorry but she would never go out with me, she only considered me a friend. Of course me being as determined as I am I wouldnt leave it alone, so I told her that I loved her, it was the worst thing I could possibly have ever done, I made her feel horrible for not feeling the same way about me as I do about her. I called her the day after our "big talk" and I told her that I was sorry for everything I said but I could hear the awkwardness in her voice. She came on MSN messenger that night and as soon as I was about to say hello to her she went offline, I think she blocked me, that really hurt me.

I am so afraid that she may never want to be my friend again, I am afraid that every time I see her it will be awkward, I just want to go back to the time when we were friends. I care for her so much and knowing that she will never go out with me is enough pain, nevermind never talking to me again. I just wanted to know what I can do, I really just want to be her friend, I want to have those long talks with her again, I dont want her to think I'm a weirdo. I guess what I want to ask is, has anyone else ever experienced anything like this before, and if so do you think she will forgive me for being so stupid? If she doesnt speak to me again I don't know what I'll do, I really need her, if anyone can help me I would be so greatful. Thank you.

Brandon

If she will not engage you in realtime discussion, be it via IM, face-to-face, telephone or whatever, maybe you could put your thoughts to her in a letter, which you could e-mail to her?

I saw her today and when I mentioned to her that I was really sorry she didn't even want to hear it, things seemed okay when I was with her today but deep down I feel that there is some awkwardness, especially because I still have feelings for her. I guess I'll have to see how the nexts few weeks go.

Arrggh you poor thing!

Unrequited love is the worst...

If you truelly do want to remain friends, and friends ONLY, email her telling her that you apologise for saying what you did. And that you kind have your eye on someone else so the pressure is off her and please don't feel the need to avoid you. It's a lie, I know but girls your age would rather run from this situation than face it. So fix the situation if you can. Even start talking about her ex, and ask her what is she going to do? Would she like help to get back together or let her know that you're there to talk to about him, and her feelings etc etc...

Leave it at that. Don't chase her or haunt her online, just say you're sorry and you maybe mixed up your feelings and you really hope she'll contact you soon.

This is from a girl who was once a teenager

Good luck bud xx

Back off for a while and let all you have said to her sink in and maybe, just maybe , after she thinks about it all, she will come around. The decision she has to make now is friends or lovers. Thats a big decision and you just threw it out there and I am sure took her by surprise. Just give her time hun..

Thanks guys, I have just been so flustered with this lately, could barely sleep at night I just needed some opinions on my situation, I really hope she will forgive me.

Mate there's nothing to forgive as far as I can see! You can't help the way you feel for this girl... but you can help the way the friendship goes from here. Fix it if you can

I would recommend against the lying option. Telling a lie as recommended may be of a short term benefit, but her feelings towards you of wanting to avoid you and of awkwardness are likely only temporary, so you will get to where you want to be without lying, I reckon. If the lie was uncovered that could cause further awkwardness, but even if she believed it, how might she feel towards you? Eventually it will be obvious that you do not have feelings for this girl as claimed. Nevertheless, she may believe that you did at the time, and so it appears that your affections can very easily switch from one person to another at the drop of a hat (from her to this new girl and then away perhaps to someone else) and that you are not really sincere. That is how it appears to me at least, but then, I do not have a female mind and I do not claim to understand it either.

I suppose it is lying, although I kind of look at it more as back tracking in order to save a friendship he sounds like he really misses a lot. Saving face so to speak

Ultimately, it's up to you PG... Best of luck!

By the way, you can check whether or not someone has blocked you on MSN. Google for 'MSN blocked check'.

Is that true? Wow, thats good info thanks Senhuan...

Sorry.. there are so many spam sites with this name...

Check http://www.blockstatus.com/msn/stchecker